Saturday, January 27, 2018

Using Social Media is Causing Anxiety, Stress and Depression

Using Social Media is Causing Anxiety, Stress and Depression

The idea that social media can be dangerous is not new. I think on some level we all know that it can cause us stress and anxiety.
We fret about how we look in pictures and how our comments sound. We worry that other people are having more fun and doing more things. We wish our last picture got more likes.
But we continue to consume it all day, every day, because in the end, we assume that the dangers are overblown. We assume that social media is mostly harmless.

Meet Madison Holleran

A freshman at the University of Pennsylvania and a star athlete, she was intelligent and talented and successful. Everyone she knew said she was happy.
But in her very first semester away from home she started to feel anxious and depressed. With her best friend she would scroll through Instagram and think, “This is what college is supposed to be like; this is what we want our life to be like,” ESPN reported.
In January of 2014 Madison killed herself. Since then ESPN has investigated the role social media played in her death and in aggravating her anxiety and depression.

That’s Just One Story

Of course, there are millions of other college students just like Madison. Anxiety is now the number one mental health problem on campuses across the country, and therapists are becoming increasingly concerned about social media making things worse.
Cyberbullying and harassment, comparing their lives to classmates, fearing they’re missing out – social media contributes to anxiety and depression in all sorts of different ways. And the more we consume, the more problems it can cause.

It’s Not Just College Students That Need to Worry

Yet the dangers go far beyond college classrooms. These days everyone is consuming social media, from 13 to 93-year-olds. No one is immune. Here are some of the biggest concerns researchers have found so far:

1. Time spent on social media is correlated with depression

Researchers have found that the longer you spend on social media, the more likely you are to be depressed. Other surveys have found that using Facebook and Twitter less helps students to be more focused and less stressed. We can debate the reasons why there is a correlation, it could be that people who are already depressed are likely to spend more time on social media. But the correlation is still troubling, especially when you read a story like Madison’s.

2. Social media is incredibly addictive

Once you get on Facebook, it’s hard to stop. Most Americans check it once a day, if not multiple times. Likes and comments can serve as positive reinforcement, making it even more difficult to stop. Some researchers have even created a scale called The Bergen Facebook Addiction Scale to measure this behaviour.

3. It can make you unhappy, unsatisfied, and restless

A study out of the University of Michigan has found that people who use Facebook more, are more likely to be unhappy than people who use it less. Similarly, those avid users also said they were less satisfied with their lives overall.
This could be because people often compare their real lives to idealized versions of their friends’ lives online. People post a lot of smiling pictures and not so many sad ones.
A different study out of the UK found that two-thirds of people now have trouble relaxing when they can’t access their social media accounts. This is especially troubling because it means that Facebook and Twitter are affecting people even when they’re offline.
In the end, there’s no doubt that there are a lot of benefits to social media. You get to share happy memories and photos and stories. You have access to all kinds of information and recipes. It really is amazing.
Just don’t forget that there are also very real dangers to social media. Ones that we are all too willing to ignore at times.


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Tuesday, January 23, 2018

Stabbed in the head with an iron needle

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh.

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Expiation for Breaking the Oaths

Expiation for Breaking the OathsPrint
Allah said,
﴿وَلَـكِن يُؤَاخِذُكُم بِمَا عَقَّدتُّمُ الاٌّيْمَـنَ﴾
(but He will punish you for your deliberate oaths.) in reference to the oaths that you intend in your hearts,
﴿فَكَفَّارَتُهُ إِطْعَامُ عَشَرَةِ مَسَـكِينَ﴾
(for its expiation (a deliberate oath) feed ten poor,), who are needy, not able to find necessities of the life. Allah's statement,
﴿مِنْ أَوْسَطِ مَا تُطْعِمُونَ أَهْلِيكُمْ﴾
(on a scale of the Awsat of that with which you feed your own families;) means, "On the average scale of what you feed your families,'' according to Ibn `Abbas, Sa`id bin Jubayr and `Ikrimah. `Ata' Al-Khurasani commented on the Ayah, "From the best of what you feed your families''. Allah's statement,
﴿أَوْ كِسْوَتُهُمْ﴾
(or clothe them,) refers to clothing each of the ten persons with what is suitable to pray in, whether the poor person was male or female. Allah knows best. Al-`Awfi said that Ibn `Abbas said that the Ayah means a robe or garment for each poor person (of the ten). Mujahid also said that the least of clothing, referred to in the Ayah, is a garment, and the most is whatever you wish. Al-Hasan, Abu Ja`far Al-Baqir, `Ata', Tawus, Ibrahim An-Nakha`i, Hammad bin Abi Sulayman and Abu Malik said that it means (giving each of the ten poor persons) a garment each. Allah's statement,
﴿أَوْ تَحْرِيرُ رَقَبَةٍ﴾
(or free a slave) refers to freeing a believing slave. In the Muwatta' of Malik, the Musnad of Ash-Shafi`i and the Sahih of Muslim, a lengthy Hadith was recorded that `Umar bin Al-Hakam As-Sulami said that he once had to free a slave (as atonement) and he brought a black slave girl before the Messenger of Allah , who asked her;
«أَيْنَ اللهُ؟»
(Where is Allah) She said, "Above the heavens.'' He said,
«مَنْ أَنَا؟»
(Who am I) She said, "The Messenger of Allah.'' He said,
«أَعْتِقْهَا فَإِنَّهَا مُؤْمِنَة»
(Free her, for she is a believer.) There are three types of expiation for breaking deliberate oaths, and whichever one chooses, it will suffice, according to the consensus (of the scholars). Allah mentioned the easiest, then the more difficult options, since feeding is easier than giving away clothes, and giving away clothes is easier than freeing a slave. If one is unable to fulfill any of these options, then he fasts for three days for expiation, just as Allah said,
﴿فَمَن لَّمْ يَجِدْ فَصِيَامُ ثَلَـثَةِ أَيَّامٍ﴾
(But whosoever cannot afford (that), then he should fast for three days.) Ubayy bin Ka`b and Ibn Mas`ud and his students read this Ayah as follows, "Then he should fast three consecutive days.'' Even if this statement was not narrated to us as a part of the Qur'an through Mutawatir narration, it would still be an explanation of the Qur'an by the Companions that has the ruling of being related from the Prophet . Allah's statement,
﴿ذلِكَ كَفَّارَةُ أَيْمَـنِكُمْ إِذَا حَلَفْتُمْ﴾
(That is the expiation for the oaths when you have sworn.)﴿5:89﴾ means, this is the legal way to atone for deliberate oaths,
﴿وَاحْفَظُواْ أَيْمَـنَكُمْ﴾
(And protect your oaths.) Do not leave your broken oaths without paying the expiation for them, according to the meaning given by Ibn Jarir.
﴿كَذَلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ آيَـتِهِ﴾
(Thus Allah makes clear to you His Ayat) and explains them to you,
﴿لَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ﴾
(that you may be grateful.)

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Four Things You Are Unsafe From

Four Things You Are Unsafe From Group of Scholars
Reference: Seer A’alaam an Nubalaa” Vol.8 P.406
CategorySayings of the Salaf
Imaam Ath Thahabi Rahimahullah mentions in his monumental book “Seer A’alaam an Nubalaa” Vol.8 P.406 on the authority of Abdullah Ibn Al Mubaarak Rahimahullah (181H.):
“The people of knowledge and insight do not consider themselves safe from four things:
1) A past sin he committed which he does not know what Allaah will do with it (either forgive and pardon him for it or punish him with it);
2) What is left of his life, whether there is something therein waiting to destroy him;
3) A favor that Allaah bestowed upon him, perhaps it is a plot which will lead him step by step to his eventual destruction and ruin;
4) Deviance which is beautified for him so that he sees it to be guidance and in a split second, his heart can deviate and he will be stripped of his deen and he doesn’t even realize it.”
TranslatorShadeed Muhammad, Abu Az-Zubayr
Date Published: Saturday, 13 January 2007

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Ruling on eating the turtle, alligator, sea horse, and hedgehog

Eating fish without slaughtering them
(Part No. 22Page No. 318)
Fatwa no. 11389
Q: I read in a local newspaper that eating fish without slaughtering them is considered Haram (prohibited); is this correct? Bear in mind that everyone in the Islamic and Arab communities eats fish without slaughtering them.
A: What you read about the obligation of slaughtering fish is not correct. It is permissible to eat fish without slaughtering them, because when the Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked about purification with sea water, he said (peace be upon him), “Its water is a purifier and its Maytah (dead sea creatures) are Halal.”
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

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Ruling on eating the turtle, alligator, sea horse, and hedgehog
Fatwa no. 11126
Q: What is the ruling on eating the meat of some animals that live in the sea, such as turtles and shrimps, and the meat of some animals that live on land, such as the zebra?
A: It is permissible to eat turtles and shrimps, as it was authentically reported that when the Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked about sea water, he said, “Its water is a purifier and its Maytah (dead sea creatures) are Halal.” Similarly, it is permissible to eat the meat of zebra, as the prohibition is regarding
(Part No. 22Page No. 319)
the domesticated donkeys.
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

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To eat turtles and shrimps
The eighth question of Fatwa no. 5394
Q 8: Is it Halal (lawful) to eat the meat of the following creatures: turtles, seahorses, crocodiles, and hedgehogs, or not?
A: It is Halal to eat the meat of the hedgehog, as understood from the general meaning of the Ayah (Qur’anic verse): Say (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم): "I find not in that which has been revealed to me anything forbidden to be eaten by one who wishes to eat it, unless it be Maitah (a dead animal) or blood poured forth (by slaughtering or the like), or the flesh of swine (pork); for that surely is impure or impious (unlawful) meat (of an animal) which is slaughtered as a sacrifice for others than Allâh (or has been slaughtered for idols, or on which Allâh’s Name has not been mentioned while slaughtering). Also, the basic ruling is permissibility unless something is confirmed that changes it to prohibition. As for the turtle, some scholars say it is permissible to eat, even if it is not slaughtered, as understood from the general meaning of Allah’ Saying: Lawful to you is (the pursuit of) water-game and its use for food Also, when the Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked about the sea water, he said, “Its water is a purifier and its Maytah (dead sea creatures) are Halal.” However, it is preferable to slaughter them to avoid the difference among scholars. As for the crocodile, it is said that this can be eaten like fish, according to the general meaning of the Ayahs
(Part No. 22Page No. 320)
and the Hadith mentioned above. Some say that it is not lawful to eat it as it is a predatory animal with fangs, but the preponderant opinion is the first one. As for the seahorse, it is lawful to eat according to the general meaning of the Ayahs and the Hadith mentioned above. There is no opposing opinion on this, and, as it is Halal to eat horses that live on the land, it is even more so for those that live in the sea.
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

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Tuesday, July 18, 2017

12 bad habits that drain your energy and how to quit them

12 bad habits that drain your energy and how to quit them

Being carefree, joyful, and full of life isn’t about your age, credit score, or the number of likes your posts get on Instagram. If you feel drained and burned out, maybe you’ve slipped into some of these common bad habits that undermine your life satisfaction and suck up all your energy, leaving you tired and worn out. Luckily, you can always take a good hard look at yourself and make changes to improve your energy levels every day.
Here are the Top 12 bad habits that many people have that end up draining their energy (both spiritually and physically).

1. Be a lone wolf

Mental health professionals know social isolation can be as damaging to health as smoking cigarettes or obesity. In a study of older adults, researchers found that people who felt lonely or felt like they didn’t have a friend or loved one to rely on had lower quality mental and physical health. [1] While some prefer to roll solo, we all need a cheering section sometimes. Invest in your relationships with people who care about your well-being and want to see you succeed.

2. Settle

‘Cognitive dissonance’ is the state of having conflicting beliefs and thoughts about a situation or choice you’ve made. It leads to ongoing mental stress. [2] Granted, life isn’t always perfect, and making compromises is a natural and healthy part of moving through life. However, thinking “this is the best I’ll ever get” or “I don’t deserve any better” is holding you back. Don’t be afraid to make bold decisions and change things that aren’t working.

3. Don’t have boundaries

Too often, we feel bad or guilty for saying “no” when someone asks a favor, invites us to something, or wants to borrow something. Don’t be afraid to answer truthfully. While we all have a few not-so-fun responsibilities, there’s no reason to agree to something you know you’ll be stressing about later.

4. Live beyond your means

We’ve all done it. The paycheck is coming in next week, so we pull out the credit card and promise to pay it off later. Spending money you don’t have, even if you just don’t have it yet,leads to nagging worry and doubts. Free yourself: let your wallet live in the present, not the future.

5. Hold grudges

Advice columnist Ann Landers wrote, “holding onto resentment is like letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.” Not only rent-free, there’s a utility bill too — your energy. Forgive and forget.

6. Overcommit your time

Always make a little space for yourself in your schedule. Unplug and use the time for naps, meditation, reading, or hobbies. Don’t you get excited just thinking about it?

7. Eat junk food

Eating junk food, especially sugary drinks and treats, releases a hit of dopamine in the brain. It’s the same chemical released when you use drugs, alcohol, or gamble. In other words, it’s highly addictive, making you want more and more. [3] Furthermore, the poor nutrition of fast food and packaged, processed products has a significant impact on your energy level. Instead, munch on healthy snacks and choose water when you can, instead of soda pop or juice. Get rid of it!

 8. Lurk social media

Increasingly, scientists, parents, and therapists see how spending too much time on social media leads to depression, social anxiety, and loneliness in teens and young adults. [4] On Facebook and Instagram, everyone presents a polished, perfect life. Our own lives behind the screen seem dull and sad — even as we filter and curate our images to seem perfect and polished to everyone else. Social media is a great tool, but be wary of spending too much time on it. Check out more on the risks of social media.

9. Charge your phone by your bed

No, it’s not because of cell radiation nuking your brain. When it’s late at night and you can’t sleep, the temptation to roll over and check your phone is tough to resist. However, turning to devices when you’re not sleepy may turn your restlessness into insomnia. [5] The mental stimulation and bright blue light mess with your circadian rhythm, the body’s sleep clock. A good way to resist the temptation is to dock your phone in another room altogether.

10. Be a couch potato

Remember how junk food releases dopamine into the brain, which feels good and gives you a temporary boost? Well, exercise has been proven to do the same, except it’s good for you! Sometimes known as a ‘runner’s high,’ working out gives a brief chemical boost to the brain. [6] Additionally, being fit means your body works more efficiently, meaning your energy lasts longer.

11. Complain

Positive thinking powerfully benefits your mental health and sense of well-being. [7] Focusing on the negative drags you down. Let it go and smile!

12. Stagnate

Lastly, sometimes it feels like you’re doing the same thing, day in, day out. We all know the feeling: eat, sleep, work, repeat. Break out of the routine and try something new. Travel, even if it’s just to a new restaurant or park. Try new things. Little changes can make you feel a lot more fulfilled. If this article inspires you, check out these 22 things happy people do every day.

Friday, June 16, 2017

Ruling On Zakat-Ul-Fitr

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Ruling On Zakat-Ul-Fitr
The fifth question of Fatwa no. 5733
Q 5: Is it an authentic Hadith that says: “The Sawm (Fasting) of Ramadan is not raised (to Allah) until Zakat-ul-Fitr (obligatory charity paid before the Festival of Breaking the Fast) is paid”? Is Zakat-ul-Fitr obligatory on a fasting Muslim who is needy and does not have the Nisab (the minimum amount on which Zakah is due) based on the authenticity of the previous Hadith or other Islamic textual evidence authentically reported from the Prophet (peace be upon him)?
A:Zakat-ul-Fitr is obligatory on every Muslim who should be self-supporting if he has one Sa‘ (1 Sa‘ = 2.172 kg) or more in excess of his and his family’s need on the day and night of ‘Eid-ul-Fitr (the Festival of Breaking the Fast). This is based on the Hadith authentically reported on the authority of Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) enjoined the payment of one Sa‘ of dates or one Sa‘ of barley as Zakat-ul-Fitr on every Muslim slave or free, male or female, young or old, and he ordered that it be paid before the people go out to offer ‘Eid Prayer.
(Part No. 9; Page No. 365)
(Related by both Al-Bukhari and Muslim and the wording is that of Al-Bukhari)
Moreover, Abu Sa‘id Al-Khudry (may Allah be pleased with him) is reported to have said: We used to pay Zakat-ul-Fitr as one Sa‘ of food, or one Sa‘ of dried dates, or one Sa‘ of barley, or one Sa‘ of raisins, or one Sa‘ of curd during the lifetime of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). (Related by both Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
It will also suffice to discharge the obligation by giving a Sa‘ of the local staple food such as rice and the like. Sa‘ here means the Sa‘ of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), which is four handfuls scooped up with the two hands of an average built man. Accordingly, a person who does not pay Zakat-ul-Fitr is sinful and has to make up for it. With regard to the Hadith you have mentioned, we know nothing to the effect of its authenticity.
We ask Allah to guide you and to make our words and deeds and yours righteous.
May Allah grant us success! May blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family and Companions!
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Source : Fatwas of the Permanent Committee

Zakat-ul-Fitr Measurement Chart
A group of students of knowledge performed these measurements; among them was Shaykh Muhammad FerkousTaken from:
Type of Food Measurement Type of Food Measurement
Rice 2300 grams/5.07lbs Flour 2000 grams/4.40lbs
Raisins 1640 grams/3.61lbs Farina (a cerealfood) 1400 grams/3.08lbs
Dates 1800 grams/3.96lbs Beans 2060 grams/4.54lbs
Wheat 2040 grams/4.49lbs Green Peas 2240 grams/4.93lbs
Lentils 2100 grams/4.62lbs Couscous 1800 grams/3.96lbs
Chickpeas 2000 grams/4.40lbs Roasted Nuts 2000 grams/4.40lbs
Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
أبو بلال نعيم بن عبد المجيد
(وفق الله الجميع للعلم النافع والعمل الصالح)
It is reported that Imâm Muhammad b. Sîrîn – Allâh have mercy on him – said:
“There were people who abandoned knowledge and sitting with the scholars, and [instead] took to their chambers and prayed until their skin dried [from exertion in worship]. Thereafter they began to contradict the Sunnah and thus were destroyed. By Allâh, never does a person act without knowledge, except that he spoils and corrupts more than he fixes and rectifies.{Al-Asbahânî, Al-Targhîb wa Al-Tarhîb 3:98}

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