Advice to the Muslimah, Salafiyyah Sister from One Whose Husband Took on Another Wife'

Advice to the Muslimah,
Salafiyyah Sister from One
Whose Husband Took on
Another Wife'

الحمد لله وكفى ، والصلاة والسلام على النبي المصطفى
وبعد

فهذه نصيحة أخوية من القلب لمن تزوج عليها زوجها ،
أصارح بها الأخوات السلفيات الأثريات لعلها تتسلل إلى
العقول ، وتجد لها مكاناً في القلوب ، وتخفف عن النفس ذلك
الحزن والضيق ، بإذن الله عز وجل

First: Remember, O Wife, that this Life is Home of Tests, Trials, and Actions. So when you are tested with an infliction, or a disaster or tragedy befalls you, then be patient and content, and do not object the Wisdom of Allaah Azza wa Jall (Mighty and Majestic), nor His Decision nor His Decree, for indeed to Allaah belongs what He Gave and to Allaah belongs what He took.
And know that the test is a wordly practice (meaning, it always occurs), and that Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aalaa (May He, the Most High, be Glorified), when He loves a people He tests them, and whoever He is pleased with will receive pleasure, and whoever makes Him angry will receive anger.

Second: Remember the protected Salafee sisters from the Mothers of the Believers, May Allaah be pleased with them, and those following them of the righteous female slaves, and comtemplate and closely examine their condition and their conditions, and how they accompanied the Prophet Sallallahu 'alayhe wa Sallam.
And know that you, however much you are a devout worshipper or not, you are not better than them, conditionally, nor in worship, may Allaah be pleased with them all.


Third: Remember patience and contentness and its reward, and that from the affairs of the Muslim is patience during trial, and that will raise you in status. As-Sabr (Patience) and Good Thoughts about Allaah Azza wa Jall is from the characteristics of al-Muttaqeen (the Pious), and they are two characteristics that are fitting for you to be keen about them in a condition like the one you are in.

Fourth: Remember the end result of anxiety, and displeasure about the Decision of Allaah and His Decree, and beware of the Anger of Allaah and sin, and refusing the Decision, and uttering words of anguish and disbelief. And do not give shaytaan a place in your heart or else he would scatter his poisons and increase animosity, disord, and enmity.

Fifth: Remember your evil deeds, call yourself to account, and learn lessons from this test that will help you with Obediance, Worship, Holding on to the Sunnah, Qiyaamul-Layl (the Superogatory Night prayers), Leaving bid'ah (innovations), and a lot of Tawbah (Repentance), Istighfaar (Seeking forgiveness), 'Inaabah (turning repentantly) and Tawakkal (Reliance upon Allaah).

Sixth: Remember that jealousy is a natural characteristic with the woman, but beware of transgressing the Islaamic Limit, and of undergoing malice and trials which divide the Muslim Homes and the Noble Family, and destroy the children.

Seventh: Remember your house, your sons, your daughters, your family, and your place, and beware of seeking divorce and hasty disconnection. So after this sacrifice, and this care and fatigue in building this family, the destruction due to an affliction that affected you?
Eighth: Remember the time and its blessings, and busy yourself with reading and memorizing al-Quraan, and preserving the Sunnah and the Books of Sharee'ah (Islaamic Law), and joining Salafee Sharee'ah knowledge courses, and presenting advice to the members of your house and your sisters, and take care of organizing and cleaning your house, and in protecting your children and raising them righteously Salafee.

والله أسأل الله أن يديم عليك نعمه ظاهرة وباطنة ، وأن
يحفظ لك بيتك وزوجك وأبنائك إنه ولي ذلك والقادر عليه
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